Modular sheets · preparing a remarriage (blended family)

Confidential. Nothing is sent: your answers stay in this browser. On a shared device, "Clear all" afterwards. The personal sheet is to be filled in by each: print two, or fill in turns.

APersonal sheet · common core

These pages are for you. Take the time to answer them, first alone, then with your spouse. There is no right or wrong answer.

Let's get acquainted

Your first name

Your age

A few words about you, about what matters to you today:

How long have you been together, and since when married?

Your children and grandchildren (skip if you have no children · see module B4)

First name	Where they live	A word about your bond

Your grandchildren, if you have any · what you love to share with them:

How did they receive your marriage? (Some rejoice, others need time · that's normal.)

A word for your pastor · something to raise one-to-one?

BYour story · a single module

B1 · Widowhood

I lost my spouse.

If you wish, say in a few words who they were, and what you keep of them:

How would you like their memory to find its place in your new life? Keep photos visible. Mark certain dates together. Speak of them freely with children and grandchildren. Keep them in your heart, without particular signs.

Where are you on your journey of grief? At peace, ready for this new page. At peace, even if some days remain tender. I'd rather talk about it in person.

B2 · Divorce

I went through a divorce / the end of a marriage / a separation.

How do you look at that path today?

Forgiveness is part of healing. Where are you? At peace with that past. Forgiveness is on the way. I'd rather talk about it in person.

How are relations with your former spouse today (if relevant, e.g. at family events)?

B3 · Previous unmarried union

I had children in a union that was not a marriage.

What you keep of that story:

Is the other parent of your children present in their life today? Yes, regularly. From time to time. Little or not at all.

How do you live with that presence or absence?

B4 · No children from a previous union

I have no children from a previous union.

You have joined a family that already has its children · what delights you, and what raises questions?

How do you experience your place with your spouse's children?

With this module, the "Your children" section of the common core (A) may be skipped.

CCouple's sheet · to fill in together

Your life together

What would you like your marriage to express, before God and before your families? (several answers possible) A new covenant, blessed by God. A witness of love and faithfulness for our families. The joy of walking together. A welcoming home for our children. A second chance, to be lived with gratitude.

Do you already live together, or separately? Together.Separately.

Have you thought of a date, a place for the celebration?

Part 1 · if your children are adults

The sensitive question is often inheritance and each one's place. Talking about money is not mistrust · it is care for each; talking early eases many worries.

Have you talked about it between yourselves?Yes.Not yet.

Have you talked about it with your children?Yes.In part.Not yet.

Have you seen, or planned to see, a notary (will, gift between spouses)? It protects each and clarifies for your children.Yes, it's planned.It's to be planned.

What would you like to protect, and for whom?

The grandchildren: have you thought about the place and the name of the new spouse with them, and about fairness between your family lines?

Part 2 · if some children are minors

The heart is not inheritance but daily life, authority, and the understanding with the other parent.

How will you organise the daily life of the household with the children?

At the start, each parent remains the main authority for their own children; the stepparent takes their place little by little. Have you talked about it?Yes.To deepen.

Is the understanding with the children's other parent (custody, rhythms, decisions) settled?Yes.In part.To work on.

What would you like to put in place so that each child finds their place?